YTA. Not because I don’t agree that bullying is an issue with the name ‘Karen’, but because of how dismissive you are towards the importance of her mother when you were so eager to name your son after your uncle.

Plus her mother died when my wife was a teenager so I have never met this woman so I don’t feel naming my daughter after her.

Her feelings towards her mother are equally valid and the name carries a significance to her that goes beyond what people on social media think. The issue here is that your outright rejection of the name ‘Karen’ instead of coming to a compromise is the problem. In her eyes, you got the name the boy after someone important to you, and she doesn’t get to do the same with the girl. Essentially, it appears as though your feelings towards your uncle matter, and her feelings towards her mother doesn’t.

A good compromise might be to have Karen as a middle name and come up with a different first name, or the other way around. A good way of getting her to see your perspective might be to find someone named Karen (like her mom) and ask them what it has been like for them since the name has been relegated to ‘an entitled woman’. Maybe show her graphs of how the name has declined in popularity because of cyber bullying.