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jarfil@beehaw.org 6 months agoI don’t think that someone’s behavior choice is comparable to their clothing choice, and I see much more than a single problem in this whole situation. It also isn’t any inherent weakness or any sort of coercion that are getting exploited, everyone is free to leave at any moment.
no one deserves to be taken advantage of
Agreed.
The problem is that everyone in this case is trying to take advantage of someone, they just differ in what they want:
- one wants money
- another wants sex
- last one wants clout and money
We can agree that the main instigator is the seller, taking advantage of the others, but that doesn’t mean the others are completely innocent; they can’t be, or the whole scheme wouldn’t be possible in the first place.
(in a sane world, I’d expect the only one to get scammed would be the buyer… but I know that groupies are a real thing)
I think we should ask why each one of them wants what they want, and why are they ready to jump at the opportunity of taking advantage of someone else in order to get it.
Then we could ask what could be done to prevent the whole situation from being possible, at every level.
PS: in some jurisdictions, there is a “funny” situation where lying to get sex is a felony up to certain age… but once it’s between “consenting adults”, lying to get sex is perfectly fine! 😒 We could also take a look at that, how is it possible to give consent while being lied to.
Gaywallet@beehaw.org 6 months ago
I completely agree, but victim blaming across choices and especially towards women and POC individuals is part of the reason we have really shitty reporting of fraudsters. Creating an environment which discourages them from speaking up is harmful to society as a whole.
We don’t know this, and we shouldn’t assume this of the victim. I think it’s a reasonable hypothesis, but focusing on talking about the victim here when there are actors which are clearly out to harm or take advantage of others is harmful framing.
jarfil@beehaw.org 6 months ago
I don’t know about the US, here in Spain the love scams, and fame scams, are a thing across all genders and orientations, with low reporting of scams in general being attributed mainly to shame of the victims for having fallen for a scam.
People like to think they’re smarter than most other people, and the more sure they are of that, the easier they are to fool. I think it’s no wonder they don’t want to acknowledge it afterwards.
I don’t see how else it could work… but I’m open to hearing alternatives?
Fair.
A relevant aspect I can think of, is the part about it being fine to lie to have sex between “consenting” adults. How can there be consent, when one or both parties are misleading the other? Sounds like an officially codified permission to abuse.
I don’t get what people see in fame or clout, it looks like lying and argument of authority to me. The fact that anyone would pursue or get influenced by either, seems to me like ingrained predisposition to getting abused (by authority figures). Not sure how much of that is inherent, and how much social.
A clearly perverse incentive in the whole scheme, is money… but that’s kind of unavoidable in any money based society.
The elephant in the room, is sex itself: how can it, on one side, make someone pay and lie for it, and on the other side be used as a bargaining chip. Is it a purely hormonal catalyst for the whole scheme, or a proxy for a power play?