Comment on Let's discuss: Mass Effect

• rwhitisissle@beehaw.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

  I’m emotionally incapable of accepting that other people dislike things I enjoy and I perceive their criticism of those things as personal attacks. When they tell me that this is a personal problem that I have and that I should learn to accept that people are complicated and that enjoying something someone else does not is perfectly valid and shouldn’t impact my sense of self-worth, I piss and shit myself and tell them that they’re calling my baby ugly. Because that’s how I think of the mindless entertainment I consume: as the closest thing I’ll ever have to children.

  Fascinating. Thank you for sharing.

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  • knokelmaat@beehaw.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

    Even though I agree with you and feel that you did nothing wrong with your original comment, I believe that there are less combative ways to point this out.

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    • rwhitisissle@beehaw.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

      That’s fair. I’ll admit that I have a problem with getting overly mad at people for making stupid, accusatory comments that actively misrepresent what I say for their own benefit. I mean, they made a dumb comment and I can, and should, just ignore it. But I also have a difficult time letting things like that go and it’s something I should try to be better about.

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• knokelmaat@beehaw.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

  I think they are in their right to give their opinion on something no? Telling someone that their kid is ugly is such a wrong comparison to make. You’re directly offending them as it is their child, plus talking about something that neither parent nor child can do anything about (their looks).

  I love talking to people who despise stuff I adore, this can give very interesting conversations. It also broadens my perspective on things. I love Mass Effect and still found the original comment very interesting.

  You’re not saying the other person is wrong to love it, you’re just saying that you yourself hate it. I think this is an important distinction to make? Especially on a discussion thread, it would be rather boring to only hear the same voice?

  Please correct me if I’m wrong, we’re all learning.

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  • zaphod@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨years⁩ ago

    It’s all about tone. The original comment was incredibly combative and hyperbolic (“I utterly loathe Mass Effect. I consider it one of the worst pieces of science-fiction ever created.”) so much so that it would easily be mistaken for flamebait given the thread was likely to attract fans of the series.

    It certainly didn’t strike me as the start of an open-minded conversation.

    But in hindsight I should’ve just downvoted and moved on rather than commenting as I did, so that’s on me.

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