No… No it really isn’t. It’s not rude to expect others to participate in things. If I am cooking and my wife is not doing anything, it’s not rude of me to ask her to come to me to talk to me… It would be rude of her to make me stop and go to her to ask her a question if she isn’t busy… That’s not an emergency situation. If she is busy then the situation is different.

I also think people don’t realize that “in a minute* or"I’m busy” is an acceptable answer to"can you come here" questions.

Again… Perpetually demanding your partner to come to you is problematic.

But it isn’t inherently wrong to ask your partner to do things.