Comment on Why does “come here” bother me so much?
Vub@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Tell him “No, if you want something from me come to me, I am not a puppy”. That should be enough. See how he reacts, either like a bratty kid or like an adult.
Comment on Why does “come here” bother me so much?
Vub@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Tell him “No, if you want something from me come to me, I am not a puppy”. That should be enough. See how he reacts, either like a bratty kid or like an adult.
fkn@lemmy.world 10 months ago
That’s literally the same thing. He isn’t a dog either. Both people should be going to the other. Plus if one person is in the middle of something that can’t be paused, the other person should do the moving.
If it is always an order, then there is an issue.
Vub@lemmy.world 10 months ago
In the case that you give as an example or an emergency, sure I agree. But that’s rare. To demand someone getting up and coming to you because you want something undefined is really rude, that’s not normal. I don’t think it’s the same thing at all to tell them what I suggested.
fkn@lemmy.world 10 months ago
No… No it really isn’t. It’s not rude to expect others to participate in things. If I am cooking and my wife is not doing anything, it’s not rude of me to ask her to come to me to talk to me… It would be rude of her to make me stop and go to her to ask her a question if she isn’t busy… That’s not an emergency situation. If she is busy then the situation is different.
I also think people don’t realize that “in a minute* or"I’m busy” is an acceptable answer to"can you come here" questions.
Again… Perpetually demanding your partner to come to you is problematic.
But it isn’t inherently wrong to ask your partner to do things.