Tbh, I’m 32 and if I could have my 16 year old energy levels back, I might be more open to having kids.

My parents were over 40 when I was born. I think about the idea of getting pregnant at that age with horror.

I know that it’s “financially smart” to wait longer, but god, being able to be done (I know you’re not “done” done, but the workload is significantly reduced) in your mid thirties sounds great. Especially if you have a well established family support network like that.

Honestly, having a large multigenerational family you live among sounds way more sustainable than every small family unit having its own. My grandmother lived with us when I was growing up, which was a huge help for both my parents and grandmother.