You’ve gotten downvoted, and you’ll probably get some more downvotes. But you you took the time to write a thoughtful post, and you made a good point.

But ultimately I feel your point is wrong. Defederating from such an instance isn’t the equivalent of dehumanizing people you disagree with. Rather, it’s limiting the (potential) scope of harm people with bad intentions can cause.

I get you’d like to see “both sides” or have a fuller picture, but there is enough evidence already that there really isn’t any possible “good” reason for their speech, and we should do what we can to limit its reach.