Comment on How does a SO feel different from a very good friend?

• chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  The way I see it infatuation is just the surface feeling, love is when it becomes a more permanent core motivation. What do you think the difference is?

  source

  • ken_cleanairsystems@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Some of the things you mentioned in your first comment really point to infatuation to me, like your perseonal identity becoming secondary to a shared identity, and “Anything that contradicts being with or caring for them is basically impossible to even think.” These sound like elements of an unhealthy relationship.

    source

    • chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Why are those things necessarily unhealthy? I phrased it in a negative way to emphasize that love can be unhealthy, but having a shared life/identity, being devoted to a person beyond rationality, if these things aren’t present I’m not sure how it would qualify as love at all.

      source