Comment on How does a SO feel different from a very good friend?
chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 months ago
Well basically love is a form of psychosis where someone becomes the most important thing to you and your whole reality bends around that. You feel a deep abiding satisfaction and comfort just being in their presence or hearing their voice. Your personal identity becomes secondary to your shared identity as a couple and your connection to them is a core part of your emotional state and thought process. Anything that contradicts being with or caring for them is basically impossible to even think. This can be really wonderful or really horrible depending on the circumstances.
ken_cleanairsystems@lemmy.sdf.org 5 months ago
This sounds more like infatuation than love, TBH.
chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 months ago
The way I see it infatuation is just the surface feeling, love is when it becomes a more permanent core motivation. What do you think the difference is?
ken_cleanairsystems@lemmy.sdf.org 5 months ago
Some of the things you mentioned in your first comment really point to infatuation to me, like your perseonal identity becoming secondary to a shared identity, and “Anything that contradicts being with or caring for them is basically impossible to even think.” These sound like elements of an unhealthy relationship.
chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 months ago
Why are those things necessarily unhealthy? I phrased it in a negative way to emphasize that love can be unhealthy, but having a shared life/identity, being devoted to a person beyond rationality, if these things aren’t present I’m not sure how it would qualify as love at all.