It’s all about what attitude and how you see it. You can’t choose your trauma, but what you can choose is how to see it:

1. A normal experience that you “got over” and refuse to allow yourself (and by extension others) to say is or was “that bad,” may even lead to believing that it’s “your turn” to inflict it on anyone who arbitrarily deserves it

2. A horrific experience that you never want another child to ever go through

Luckily, I grew up with parents who saw it the #2 way and raised me with love