Comment on Anon makes a dating app profile

EdibleFriend@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

• azertyfun@sh.itjust.works ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Well it does work like that on grindr from what I understand. Also anon clearly doesn’t want a non-dominant gf, so I think being respectfully upfront with expectations is the correct move that saves everyone time and effort. I think the real problem is simply supply vs demand: anon is hot enough to be conventionally attractive, but not hot enough to stand out amongst the 20 submissive men for every dominant woman or whatever.

  (Also I’m aromantic so maybe I’m just talking out of my ass and serial dating until you find someone sexually compatible is the way to go, in which case best of luck to y’all, I’m going to eat some garlic bread)

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  • EdibleFriend@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Oh don’t get me wrong, not saying its bad to be upfront. its just…know your audience yo. If you are on vanilla dating apps and have that in your profile then…yeeeeeeeeeeah. gonna get ignored. Dude needs to know about fetlife lol.

    Then, of course, he needs to get out his wallet because pretty much all the dommes I see seeking there anymore are pro but thats a whole other can of worms.

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  • OneWomanCreamTeam@sh.itjust.works ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Honestly, finding a dom on Grindr (who isn’t a massive creep) has felt like a sysophean task.

    I know they’re out there. They’ve got to be, right?

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  • Riven@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Being upfront worked for me (not sexually). I was upfront on how much of a gamer and introvert I was. On how I didn’t want kids and how I was awkward and shy. Turns out girls are Into that if you’re kinda cute and employed. Met my now fiancee through an app that way.

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  • Zaphod@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I think you’re mostly correct with your assumptions. Could also just be there aren’t any dominant women in anon’s, or they’re using a different dating app

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