Comment on what has worked for you to stop getting angry thinking about people who hurt you?
NeoNachtwaechter@lemmy.world 10 months ago
people who hurt me in the past
The pain is inside you now.
Not in them. You can’t give it back to them.
Even the best revenge (if you are maybe thinking about revenge) is not going to relieve the pain inside you - it would only create new, additional pain.
Forgiving is the way to go. And I’m not saying that it is easy, just saying that it is the way to go. Forgiving means to let them go free. Give up any wish for revenge. Decide that you are not going to bring it up against them anymore. Ever. Let go of the bad thoughts and then you can let go of the bad feelings too.
Make sure that you know (maybe tell someone, or write it down in a long letter that does not need to be sent) all of it when you try to forgive. It means, when you decide to let go, you rethink (only this one time) all that has happened and all the feelings it has caused - especially for this purpose of letting it go. And then you can let go.
And then this will set you free.
cascadingsymmetry@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Holding on to feelings of anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick.
Meditation and forgiveness help a lot.