Comment on How to deal with people who obtusely miss your point on Lemmy?
Strider@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Autists deal with this daily, on lemmy and everywhere life.
Phase 1: explain
Phase 2: just let it go
And estimate in advance if you have the energy and motivation to get into it. Mostly I don’t even get into it although I would really be happy for constructive exchange.
schipelblorp@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
What is the connection to autism? Why don’t people understand you?
I often switch contexts in my head without informing my partner and assuming they’ll know what I’m talking about.
Strider@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Your answer kinda proves the point to me, meaning no disrespect.
The issue is we all are using the same words but neurotypical people rely heavily on reading and messaging between the lines, which we don’t do. This results in the so called double empathy problem where there’s a lot of issues in the communication.
Since 99% are usually neurotypical and 1% are autists, the norm is basically NT and we’re the ones who have to deal with this on a daily basis. And since the knowledge of autism is actually way outdated for many people who do not actively concern themselves with this (and even most professionals, sadly), often people think of the really disabled autists and not fully capable people that have a biologically different brain causing this.
This pushes the issue to a wholly different level on highly functioning autists, aka nothing seems different but the struggles are absolutely real and the misunderstandings are on completely different levels e.g. a valid harmless query from the Autist to assess a situation is interpreted as a vile attack on a NT.
Psychologically and socially it’s actually a highly interesting topic.
schipelblorp@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Can you explain what i said and what point it proved? i have at least two options.
Strider@lemmy.world 3 days ago
You’ve lost me. And while I provided fundamentals with source I do not comprehend what this short statement is meaning nor trying to achieve but personal ‘winning’ on the internet.
As previously stated we have to manage our social resources tightly and this is where I exit.