Comment on Feeling sad
CombatWombat@feddit.online 1 week ago
Oh honey, you’re gonna have so much more fun and be so much happier as an adult than you were as a child. Don’t worry about mourning your lost teenage years, your 20s and 30s were always going to be much better for you. Go out and be gay and atheist and pursue whatever makes you feel alive.
WhyJiffie@sh.itjust.works 1 week ago
these “you are going to be __ later in life” things are so misleading. there was another comment recently, saying don’t worry you don’t have friends, you’ll have so many! nothing will just happen out of the blue, if your circumstances are not right. the “good things” really can just happen to avoid you if you are not actively searching (and finding) them. I’m nearing the end of my twenties and guess what, there was no fun, and I’m not happy. and I have no fucking idea where to start.
sorry about the rant.
HubertManne@piefed.social 1 week ago
my thought is like and with the economy looking so brigght and the global biosphere so right its all gonna be great /s
frostedtrailblazer@lemmy.zip 1 week ago
I think it’s fair to say you’ll have sufficient opportunities to make friends, not necessarily that all of them will be how we expect them to be. Looking is important, making friends with people that have friends can help quite a lot too. Being in the right space of mind to be a good and caring friend will take you far, although our experience may vary.
My twenties didn’t go quite how I thought they would when I was younger, but I still spent the time I had in ways that mattered to me.
Sometimes where we are isn’t the right place for us to grow. Sometimes it’s the people we’re allowing into our lives be a good or bad influence on us. Sometimes it’s our coping mechanisms that push the people that care away.
I feel that meeting the people that our right for us often means putting yourself out there and being a bit uncomfortable in a new space. That can be in the form of joining a D&D group, a running club, a book club, friend finding websites/apps, or even having penpals.
One of my best friends meets new people every day hosting Partiful events. He’s sending them out to acquaintances, and seeing how many people show up even for the most mundane things. The act of friendship can be one-sided quite a bit at first, I feel, where you’re often the one perusing the friendships or hosting events, but occasionally you’ll meet the right people and things will click into place.
One friend can often be how you make other friends, since they may invite you to events with some of their other friends and those friends’ friends.
WhyJiffie@sh.itjust.works 1 week ago
third places are closing one after another. because my generation is growing up, getting full time jobs and losing basically all free time. and the younger generation is not interested anymore in social experiences, as the places closing admit themselves.