What the fuck bro se is killing herself who gives a fuck if she looks good
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Coke@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
i mean YES, she is anorexic and probably has an eating disorder. she’s still cute though, just not as cute as she was before. i think a lot of it has to do with how celebrities that were beautiful dont come to terms and deal well with aging, so they try to get surgeries and go anorexic and shit like that trying to look 20 when they’re 35. they need to let go.
wezzzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
gandalf_der_13te@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
who gives a fuck
she does
wezzzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
Hey so, people dont become anorexic bevause they think being slim is pretty :) there are many reasons people might develop eating disorders that include but aren’t limited to things like stress, disgust with youre situation and feeling ill along with societal pressure and unhealthy work environments you can find in things like the show business! So disrespectfully never say this about a girl again and type with both of your hands after thinking long and hard about celebrities and public figures still being people that can experience issues beyond wanting too look pretty because youre coming over as a fine ‘gentleman’ with inflated masculinity shoved up your ass by society!
gandalf_der_13te@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
so what you’re saying is that people eat less for various reasons, one of them being stress.
no need to get angry.
Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de 2 weeks ago
What a strange thing to say as a reaction to someone expressing worries about someone else’s health. “She might be unhealthy but she is still cute in my eyes, which is all that matters.” That is how it sounds.
Coke@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
didn’t say that’s all that matters. just wanted to point out she wasn’t hideous. i feel like people are reacting like she’s ugly now when she’s not. if she were reading this i’d want to reassure her that she’s still got beauty and she might be unhealthy now and it’s affecting her appearance but it isn’t game over for her, she’s still attractive and she can fix this and still be healthier and better looking. like it isn’t all doom and gloom for her
itsjustachairmary@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
‘You are beautiful’ is a normative statement about ‘beauty’ which is put on women as their ‘value’. You’re essentially saying ‘well she still has value because she is pretty’. And that’s exactly the kind of shit that leads to unhealthy coping strategies etc
Like, she doesn’t ‘have value’ because she’s ‘beautiful’. She just does. End of story. Putting this pressure on people, ‘good’ or ‘bad’ is still putting this pressure on people, what’s so hard to understand there.
Coke@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
i feel like you’re making assumptions here that i said her value only comes from her beauty. i think beauty adds to value but it’s not the only thing that matters for women OR men either for that matter. she clearly is going through the surgeries and anorexia because she cares about her appearance, so why is stating she still looks fine and isn’t ugly a bad thing? imo beauty does give you some value at least in a superficial sense. we aren’t robots, we have attraction to things and a positive attraction is a positive value.
Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de 2 weeks ago
“I am not reducing her to her appearance, but if she wasn’t pretty in my opinion, it would be game over for her” that is how this reads. Look at the votes and realise that is what you sound like. If you feel and think differently to that, reflect on how you communicate your thoughts. I doubt you would want to tell e.g. a close female friend something that she would understand like that.
Your whole statement circles around the idea that while you agree that she is less healthy, she is still pretty and consequently, you think she will be fine. And that might be a understandable (while sad) perspective from a business perspective but you joined a conversation about her health. By moving the conversation away from her health towards her beauty (a very subjective matter, which is especially important in situation), you are communicating that you believe that a focus on her beauty is relevant.
Now i understand that you might be reacting to other people’s comments and you feel like they called her ugly and you don’t think she is. But instead of stating that, e.g. by saying “while it seems like she is less healthy right now, let’s not call her ugly, that is just mean. And personally, i still think she is pretty” but by saying things that imply that her value is in her matching your aesthetic sense.
I want to assume that your heart is in the right but your words are not.