You my friend, I bet you have textured hair like tones and tones of women who have been tortured in salon with wet cut, straightened hair or waved with a curling iron, only to end up crying going back from the hairdresser. There are so many of us that have neither straight nor curly or kinky. They call our hair freezy, unmanageable, dull, or we get the witch (the crazy maniacal one, not the cool crazy maniacal one) look when long.
A few of the curly girl hair methods have worked to some extend for me, but I feel like we do not have the technic or technology to care for that kind of hair because it was just not considered a thing until recently. It requires a tremendous amount of trials and errors to find something approximate and if you ever find a stylist who understand your hair, keep them very very close and never let go.
Anyway, to answer your question, curly hair products are supposed to care for your curls.
schipelblorp@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
I was mostly making a joke about bisexuality… but my hair is kind of thick and wavy except for some flat spots. My go-to-solution these days to add a little interest is a home-made sea-salt water spray.
Sorry for your hair troubles. It’s true for any minority issue–most people don’t know how to treat you, a smaller number THINK they know how but don’t, and only a very few people actually do.
Shellbeach@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Hahaha, it went right over my head. Good one! And thank you for your sympathy. Now I shall crawl back to me freezy cave