Comment on Anon is in hell
InfiniteStruggle@sh.itjust.works 6 months agoI don’t know man, I think temper is having the self control to consider your words BEFORE they fall out of your mouth, modifying it to take into account the circumstance and the recipient and all that, and THEN saying it.
In your example it would depend if your friend was being mean in the heat of the moment, or deliberately deciding to be so brutal. Either way, your friend doesn’t sound like a very nice person to be around.
Illecors@lemmy.cafe 6 months ago
Oh, it’s not my friend. I’m just a lemmy passer by :)
All I’m saying is - being an asshole does not have a prerequisite of losing your temper. On top of that - some people ask for it.
In OP’s example the other side is wasting time. That is one thing I do not tolerate.
As to people not being nice - what about the time waster? Is he nice? Is it nice? I feel like people are sticking to words too much and actions too little.
Ookami38@sh.itjust.works 6 months ago
Well, being an asshole doesn’t mean you lost your temper, no, but it does mean you’re an asshole, which might be worse. I’d rather be around someone who’s only an ass when they’re upset vs all the time. From the OP, would I personally have banned her, no probably not, but we also don’t know what words were actually spoken from either side. My guess is that it was a bit spicier than portrayed if she’s been banned twice