I like this. I sometimes worry for the youngsters who so urgently want to have a label. I’m 46 now and have been so many different people throughout my life. I have been looking sometimes like a girl, sometimes like a boy, and doing both girl and boy stuff. Transition just wasn’t really something easily accessible when I was younger so I didn’t consider it. I’ve identified as bi throughout my life because that was the label that existed at the time but never made it my whole identity. The only thing I wish would change? That the perception of ‘boy looks’ vs ‘girl looks’ and ‘boy stuff’ vs ‘girl stuff’ would disappear from public perception altogether.

I want to wear my dress, then pick up the tools, then knit a scarf, then dye my hair, then protect someone, then nurture someone, then love someone, then wear the pants, then be the boss, then be the pet - and I want all of these to be non-issues that are not gender-related. They are just human things.

I know this reads a bit like ‘It’s just a phase’ - that’s not quite it. I’ve been proudly weird and non-conforming all my life and that has never changed. I just sometimes suspect the time for the torturous soul-seeking of young folk who urgently need to know whether they are boy or girl could be spent in more pleasurable ways. You don’t need a label, you can be who you are on each single day, and that might change quite a lot throughout the years.