The only reason I identify as bi instead of pan is because I like the bi flag more
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Banana@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks agoAs someone who identifies as pansexual, the distinction i make is that I don’t consider gender when vetting a potential partner, it’s just not a metric that is part of that decision.
Aside from that, your description here is spot on from what I understand at least. Of course gender and sexuality is a social construct so other people may feel differently
Lileath@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
Banana@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I switch between them, but I concur, I also prefer the bi flag and I usually just identify as bi for simplicity and not having to explain the difference lol
groet@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
bisexual = attracted to all genders pansexual = no gender they are not attracted to
Banana@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Kinda!
The way I’d personally word it is:
Bisexual = attracted to their own gender and other genders (perhaps not every gender but that depends on the person)
Pansexual = gender is irrelevant
The distinction is mostly semantic as it doesn’t really change much in terms of how we operate in dating.
demonquark@lemmy.ml 2 weeks ago
Counter-anecdote
In my friend group, the bisexuals are very “gender is irrelevant.”
While the “attracted to one specific gender and others” ppl tend me more … “straight, but I’ll suck a dick” (or the inverse “gay, but boobs are super hot”)
Banana@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
That’s super interesting and totally does not at all reflect the conversations I’ve had with my friends!
I guess it just goes to show how subjective it is, which is why there is no real consensus. I can only really speak for myself and the people in my circles. I won’t argue with bisexual/pansexual people who identify differently because we dictate our own identities really.