Comment on If your significant other cheated on you, would you confront or attack the person they cheated with?
Shimitar@downonthestreet.eu 8 hours ago
The other person is not the problem or the culprit. I would look into my own relationship and confront my SO, be furious, maybe aggressive (but not violent, that I would never be), maybe crying.
The other person it’s a distraction, it your SO and yourself you need to focus on.
wide_eyed_stupid@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
It does kind of depend on who it is, imo. If it really is some random person who might not have even known about our relationship, then no. It’s not their fault or their responsibility.
But what if it’s your best friend? Then definitely. Both out of my life.
Shimitar@downonthestreet.eu 4 hours ago
What I mean is that it’s not your best friend fault. It’s your relationship that has issues to be addressed or your SO would not have looked somewhere else.
So I can be enraged with my best friend, indeed, like with a stranger, but make no sense to address him or her when the fault is not their fault.
When somebody cheats the issue is within the relationship and or the cheating person. The third person is just an external factor, if not your best friend it would have been another person, see, it’s irrelevant.
wide_eyed_stupid@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
Irrelevant? Like hell it is. My best friend also has agency. They make their own choices, just like my partner. And in that moment, they both chose to screw me over.
Now, we could of course have a debate about who should get more of the blame, but that’s besides the point. When it’s a random person, they have no ties to me. I don’t trust them, love them, feel any connection to them whatsoever. They can’t ‘screw me over’ because they don’t know me. But my best friend? Our friendship would forever be ruined and I don’t think you can call that irrelevant.