I reject the concept of automatically taking a partner’s last name, as a woman. I also don’t want my father’s, for personal and professional reasons. It’s wack that we have all collectively agreed that a woman trades ownership and a large part of her identity when married. He should have to do it. I know a woman with the last name Palo who changed her name to something I find ugly when she got married and it ticks me off. It’s sexism for her to change it and not him, but we all ignore it?

I will change my name to a partner’s if they have an awesome last name, but I can’t wait on a hypothetical partner. I actually do know a couple women in my line of work who have ethnic last names that have confused patients. Einstein would be funny but I dare not.