Comment on Is there a word for people who will mess something up and blame the victim for it?
8oow3291d@feddit.dk 4 days agoVery much behavior shown by narcissists, as I understand it.
A narcissist would often do it at an unconscious level. But it could also be psychopathy, where the psychopath completely deliberately lies to gain advantage.
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 4 days ago
It’s also one of my personal triggers because my mom always did this. I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt and assume it was unconscious guilty avoidance as opposed to intentionally lying, but still, I could describe the situation accurately back to her and point out what she did that was wrong (we’re not talking about a mistake or accident here, I only brought it up if it was an intentional action that hurt other members of my family) she would always have, “but they did this”, or “I thought I was helping, excuse me for caring!”
8oow3291d@feddit.dk 3 days ago
As I understand it, that is pretty much the definition of narcissism. Narcissism is defined by an underlying inferiority complex, which gives the narcissist a mental block preventing them from consciously realizing their own imperfections.