Lol, it wouldn’t surprise me if he’s neurodivergent (I probably am too tbh), but I think it’s just more how he was raised and now he’s just too old to change his way, lol. He’s been a computer engineer since the 80’s and has been on the internet since about then. I think he’s just gone to too many security conferences and gotten a bit paranoid. Better to be too cautious than the other way around in my opinion. And to be clear, it’s not like he’s overly paranoid to the point of affecting his life, he just doesn’t like giving his info out online to places he doesn’t trust.
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Tarquinn2049@lemmy.world 6 months agoIt’s a pretty common mindset in the neurodiverse community. It’s partially based on black and white thinking, and partially based on a type of anxiety that causes a sense of pre-dread before doing almost anything, once you break through and actually start it, that type of anxiety goes away. To be replaced by whatever other types of anxiety the individual has, lol.
And of course with most of these it’s more accurate to say it’s a result of the trauma of growing up with these cognitive differences in a world where they aren’t standard.
It might be a bit frustrating trying to navigate his defenses, hopefully you end up getting it all worked out.
jmchrist@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Tarquinn2049@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Hehe yeah sorry. It wasn’t just the credit card thing. The whole story there was like 10 different hints. I know alot of normal people and alot of neurodivergent people, and there are alot of parallels there, too many to be coincidence.
But I don’t get why so many people push back on it. Not only is it fine to be neurodivergent, but it’s not like you can change it by pretending you aren’t. This isn’t the olden days anymore, we know a ton of stuff now that can really help even getting diagnosed in your later years. Still always best to get the diagnosis before school, since the standard school experience causes alot of unnecessary grief. But the next best time is always “as soon as possible”. Many things can be un-done with surprisingly little effort.
I know the old mentality is to not get a label so people won’t treat you different, but that is not at all how anything works anymore. Getting diagnosed is basically everyone’s favourite day of their life nowadays. It’s the turning point where their life finally started to make sense for them. And they “caught back up” to where they were always supposed to be.
scrion@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Not everyone has to be neurodivergent to not want to use a credit card on the Internet - there have been plenty of leaks for this to be a valid stance. Also, let’s not forget about other countries where credit cards play basically no significant role in day to day payment activities and people view them as “oddities” (for a lack of a better term).
Also, depending on how you hand your credit card info over, and if mechanisms like EMV 3d secure are in place, some merchants basically obtain a copy of your card and it’s on you to check the validity of the transaction and also re-check that no additional transactions have been made over time. While it is certainly good practice to go over your credit card statement each month, I could totally understand if someone wanted to avoid that hassle and the one that comes with a dispute.