Comment on Is a relationship necessary in 2026?
Alex@sopuli.xyz 1 week ago
I’d like to clarify: I’m not a freak or a model, not a scrawny guy or a musclehead. I’ve tried to build normal, healthy relationships, but it seems like girls don’t want that—they just want money and thrills.
Hacksaw@lemmy.ca 6 days ago
Your problem is treating women as an amorphous mass with uniform characteristics.
Women are like everyone else. If you’re only meeting trash level women who just want to lay back and be treated to the high life and give nothing in return then the question is: why aren’t you seeing women who value character and individually?
In general it’s likely you don’t have much of it to offer. Work on your skills and interests. Make at least 10-20 friends you see at least a handful of times per year. Once you do that you’ll have what you need to find the kind of women you’re interested in because you’ll be the kind of person who is interesting to them. Nobody wants to be with a friendless loser with no interests except toxic online communities. That’s a charity, not a relationship.
Also chill with the “experienced” women stuff. That’s just your own insecurity. You’re scared of being compared unfavorably with past partners. I get that. When you’re with a partner they chose you though so on the whole they like you more than past partners. Plus if you just pay attention, ask, and listen, you’ll be among their best sexual partners in the long run because you stuck around and learned what worked well and built the sexual chemistry. Plus women who have been with a few partners are much better sexual partners than those who haven’t. They’re more skilled and more confident and a confident sexual partner is a thing to behold. Same is true for men so don’t be scared to experiment with different partners.