Pedophilia is sexual attraction to kids, full stop. Our current justice system refers to it as rape because a child cannot consent - hence why we might think of pedos as having a power fixation, but they do not see themselves as rapists (as rapists do) - they want to bed and often marry children.

whereas the pedos like on Reddit and stuff who wanna actually sext kids do it for power

Silly to bring it up, but watch a few episodes of your boy Chris Hansen doing his thing… these men are not looking to rape, they are sexually aroused by children, not a power fantasy.

IMHO acting on pedophilia should be a capital offense - I do not believe these people can be reformed with our current understanding of brain chemistry. Maybe if we lived in Demolition Man world I’d be down to put them on ice forever.