Comment on Discussion Thread šŖ· Wednesday 8 April 2026
Seagoon_@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØmonthā© agothe problem lies with defining ātake all of it onā
itās not all, itās not everything,
but I do get you on timing , I waited a short while after Allie died til I got Bill. And I did tell the rspca I wanted a cat that was easy because her passing was very upsetting. ( and Bill was very healthy and young, just a bit nervous is all )
melbaboutown@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØmonthā© ago
Itās not just that. I have been powering through so many major things overlapping for so many years now (didnāt really post about them) and people just kept dying around me. Iām beyond burned out. Just been endlessly in crisis and working overtime to manage everything and not even getting a moment to breathe before the next one starts.
Iām exhausted and have barely started grieving Melbcat but am now in yet another situation where Iāll have to work diligently and consistently for an extended time and experience setbacksā¦ I just donāt think I can do it. And I donāt think I can commit to another pet again so soon.
Itās so painful because I do care about this goofy little goober and wish I could keep him. But I donāt think I can do it because I am breaking. And thatās another loss. At this point it feels like being punished for caring.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØmonthā© ago
so many hugs
and it shouldnāt be work, it should be a joy
melbaboutown@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØmonthā© ago
I wish I could explain it to you but I canāt. Even caring for someone or something you love can become a relentless grind that begins harming you.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØmonthā© ago
rereading your post, it sounds to me like you need a holiday or at minimum a stay with a friend or fam in a nice place if you can