Comment on I'm 29 and my partner is only 28 am I exploiting her?
SwingingTheLamp@piefed.zip 1 day ago
I used to date a woman who’s a month older than me. She used to joke about robbing the cradle. Too bad I’m not as clever as the Futurama writers, or I would’ve insisted instead that I was robbing the grave.
Macchi_the_Slime@piefed.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
My partner is a week shy of being exactly 5 years older than me, I’m 35, she’s 40. Most of the time we’re basically the same person and that 5 year gap is basically nothing. We were both in pretty comparable stages in our lives when we got together ten years ago, there wasn’t an imbalanced power dynamic from her being older than me.
But sometimes something comes up where that gap falls in just the right spot that something foundational to her childhood I was just too young for and for a brief second she cringes real hard and is just like “God dammit you’re just a baby!”
AA5B@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I was occasionally on the other side of that and really hated it. I’m four years older than my ex, but also came from a more conservative (small c) town. Usually we were at the same stage of life but …… Sometimes that four years was a generation difference, which was very uncomfortable
Macchi_the_Slime@piefed.blahaj.zone 23 hours ago
Yep that’s the thing. Most of the time the gap feels like nothing, others it feels like an entire generational difference and it hits her with massive psychic damage because for that moment I’m a little baby.