A group deciding that one member is not welcome anymore is no hierarchy. It doesn’t structurally exploit the person “on the bottom”.

It only becomes a problem where the “anarchist” shared flat meets our current society. Exiling him might not be as easy, because of outside forces (true hierarchy). He has a contract and can enforce it with outside help. Maybe he ends up homeless because he cannot afford rent, or nobody gives him another flat.

In “perfect anarchist utopia” he would go into the “couch pisser flat” and be welcomed with open arms. And why wouldn’t he do it willingly? He is bound to be way happier with other couch pissers than being miserable with us, who don’t want to piss onto couches.

But the example is oc mood, because once again: did that ever happen to you? As I said, people tend to follow the rules of their group. I did never encounter a couch pisser or someone like it in shared flats or other groups organized without hierarchies. And usually, once again, if I heard of those stories, it was because of outside forces. People disagreeing about means of power like money.

The concept of intrinsic shame carries far in circles, where people know each other. I mean, read up on current anthropologic research about hunter-gatherer societies. For all we know “anarchy” is the default organizational form for small groups of humans.