Staring isn’t rude. People are awfully self-conscious. People can just be. Weird is fine.
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JakoJakoJako13@piefed.social 19 hours ago
I’m also an early 90s baby. It used to be you’d say something back when you caught someone staring at you. Like hey take a picture it’ll last longer. Then the one staring would out of the moment, crack a joke back, and be done with it. Now it’s that moment going on too long and the person engaging the stare doesn’t even acknowledge it afterwards. My brother’s girlfriend does it all the time. The other day I’m getting ready to leave and opened my door to go to the bathroom and the girl stopped what she was doing to glare at me. No hello, no good morning, no thought behind those eyes. Just nothing. I put my hands up like I got arrested and she snapped back to what she was doing without acknowledging my existence.
It’s almost as if nobody told them staring is rude. It’s weird. It sucks.
lmmarsano@group.lt 17 hours ago
JakoJakoJako13@piefed.social 13 hours ago
Maybe it’s a culture thing then. I grew up in a city where I was told if you look at someone the wrong way they’ll beat your ass. I’ve seen it first hand too. You get the wrong person at the wrong time, staring can lead to a fight.
lmmarsano@group.lt 13 hours ago
I grew up in a city where I was told if you look at someone the wrong way they’ll beat your ass.
Who’s rude in that situation? Pretty sure anyone who beats people over nothing are universal dickheads.
JakoJakoJako13@piefed.social 5 hours ago
The aggressor. Have you never been in a situation where you’re walking down a street and lock eyes with someone and they yell back ‘the fuck you looking at?’ Staring can be so much more than nothing. We’ve spent all our evolution as a species adding meaning to different looks and stares.
The eyes convey so much emotion. You can look at somebody and tell exactly how they’re feeling just by looking at their eyes. That’s the problem with the Gen z stare. There’s nothing behind it. It’s startling when you receive it. My immediate reaction to it is usually ‘is there something wrong here?’ Then to attach a judgment like you’re stupid to it by the person doing it is off-putting.
Zirconium@lemmy.world 17 hours ago
I do that, I stare and say nothing. Too shy
wolfpack86@lemmy.world 18 hours ago
This isn’t that.
JakoJakoJako13@piefed.social 14 hours ago
What is it then?
wolfpack86@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
Its not when you catch someone looking. It’s when someone stares blankly because what you said is so stupid it doesn’t warrant a response.
JakoJakoJako13@piefed.social 1 hour ago
What is it then if you get the same stare without saying anything at all?