Palworld might fit your group, though my recommendation is to play via direct connection to one of you that isn’t the mr grind - any local save can enable multiplayer and people just need the invitation code to join in. The save remains local on the host’s machine.

An old game that might be fun for you is either Jedi Outcast or Jedi Academy, the best Star Wars games with lightsaber dueling and force using, also guns (they use the Quake 3 engine but aren’t as fast paced) - the former has 3 saber dueling styles, the latter adds dual saber wielding and the 2-bladed saber (the one Darth Maul uses)

A NeoGeo emulator + Neo Bomberman could be fun, too. Or the classic SNES bomberman games, too.