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Nah. A good friend of mine is really good looking and super charismatic. He’s boned at the very least 50+ girls. Now at age 38 he’s settled down with a fantastic lady and they’ve had their first child not long ago.

Good looking dudes will have had sex with at least a dozen girls during college alone.

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exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Yeah, plenty of guys like that exist, but I’m giving reasons why the average (or maybe median) might be much lower. The guys I know who have hooked up with at least 20 women in a year (once every 2 weeks) were specifically working and living in a place where that happens with enough frequency (surf instructor in Hawaii who would hook up with women on vacation, bouncer at a popular bar in a party college town). And obviously celebrities are in a different category as well. But are there enough of them to move the numbers for the median?

I went to a law school where plenty of hookups happened, but the pool of potential partners tended to flame out by 5 before they either settled into a single monogamous relationship or exhausted the entire pool of potentially interested short term partners.

I also went to a party school for undergrad, but young people are just so much more awkward about sex and relationships that it seemed like way fewer men had repeated success at any kind of sustainable rate. Some men did, but for the the overall average, even among physically attractive men, was low enough that a big chunk would prefer at least medium term commitments rather than try for hookups every weekend.

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