Comment on Twice the rejection
LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world 1 week ago
The better advice for me would have been not get in relationships for much of my younger years. Sub 18 year relationships only really were distractions. Fun though
Comment on Twice the rejection
LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world 1 week ago
The better advice for me would have been not get in relationships for much of my younger years. Sub 18 year relationships only really were distractions. Fun though
GreenDust@lemmings.world 1 week ago
It’s sort of like practice. Young relationships allow you to make mistakes to learn from firsthand while it is less important. Making those mistakes as an adult in a more serious relationship has worse consequences.
LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world 1 week ago
For many that is probably true. For others who are hopeless romantics, we run 40 hour a week jobs from 16-18 while balancing a girl friend, trying to run through courses and turn out decent grades and a social life going into college while averaging 4 hours sleep a night. It’s fun at the time, but I really wish I would have learned more about taking time for myself and planning out next steps for myself as opposed to just thrusting into as many syllabus hours, while balancing it all going into college. I didn’t do bad at the University I went to, but really if I learned to step back and not be facing every challenge at the last minute all the time I think it would have prepped me for planning more of what to do with my time when I’m out of college.
Like get a Job, sure that’s a requirement… But that isn’t a career to me. A career is planned things you strive for and goals set by yourself to make sure you want to land yourself.
When the courses are done, the hours worked, the goals met. I never learned how to properly make my own goals, just how to followed boring structural requirements… Because you’re told you have too. And if you don’t come from money, you can’t exactly just get a loan to start a company or buy a house because you have a degree… You are 10’s of thousands in student loan debt. So you enter a dead end job otherwise you can’t pay the rent, and maintain a relationship, help your family, or whatever other obligations you feel you have.