Modern life is abusive. If you make it through infanthood without at least some trauma in places like the US, you’re probably an extreme outlier. That’s just the base level everyone carries with them. Of course some people have it quite a bit worse than others. I certainly think people should be able to complain even if on paper they’ve have more demographics in their favor.

That said, I’d say I’ve experienced lots of happiness imo despite not being cis or het and having gotten a restraining order against the person who birthed me when I was like 8yo. I hope you are able to find happiness too!