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BananaIsABerry@lemmy.zip 3 days agoIf they didn’t know is there any real harm? Maybe later on they’ll learn and have a cringy memory to come back to.
Downvotes on my previous comment are suspicious. We’re on one of the most privacy minded communities there is and they’re supporting actively going through the personal messages of an 11 year old kid.
My parents would not have liked what conversations I had at 11, but knowing that I could express myself without someone hawking through my every thought.
If I was in your kid’s situation, I would never share anything with you. Having the thought police actively hanging over my every conversation would be a nightmare.
Klox@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Well my kid was texting other middle age kids from her school. There’s already been cases of kids screenshotting conversations that are just “between friends” to share with others. I also have no idea what those kids are aware of – maybe they have seen these movies and understand the memes better than she does.
Yeah, there is a shit load of potential harm. Are you not aware of cyber bullying? Are you not aware of how mean kids can be? You think kids fully understand gaslighting, manipulation, and scams? Most adults don’t understand this, and this privacy forum thinks I should just let the events unfold randomly for my kids? I am not being a helicopter parent simply by monitoring and educating my kids. I understand the stereotype. I discuss science, philosophy, politics, finances, privacy, anonymity, permanence of digital communications, atheism, world tragedies, case studies in exploitation/scams, and dozens of other topics with my kids.
My spouse and I are both sex positive, so it’s not that it’s something we “dislike” our kids discovering. Frankly, we are excellent parents because it’s something we value, discuss, and try to be intentional about. But thinking they will just intuitively navigate digital communication is very naive. We have an excellent relationship and I I’ll do my best to keep making it stronger. I hope they will feel comfortable coming to me for any topic, including sex. I’ll basically be setting them up with a much better understanding of the values of privacy than 99% of parents.
But kids are dumb. You can’t just lecture at them. They are learning, but they are dumb, and will make mistakes as they learn. Why would I not be involved in that?
I appreciate the conversation. I fully expected a lot of downvotes on an anonymous privacy sub about kids not having privacy. It doesn’t bother me. Someone asked an interesting question about the intersection of kids and privacy, and it’s a topic I am passionate about. So yeah, I am happy to defend my choices as a parent if there’s more questions even if it goes against the norms of the community.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 days ago
i have never known a competent parent to say this
Klox@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Well we are out there. Cheers