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aramis87@fedia.io 8 hours ago
If I may ask, without being rude: are you sure you're asexual and not [demisexual](https://lgbtqia.fandom.com/wiki/Demisexual]? For me, there would be a difference between someone who's really not interested in sex at all vs someone who's really only interested in sex once they've emotionally bonded with a person.
If you are asexual, there are definitely other asexuals out there who would still be interested in having nonsexual partners.
In your original post, you mentioned male partners; I'd also suggest you consider whether you'd be okay with a nonsexual female partner. Again, not trying to be rude, you just seem to be trying to figure out how you can get fit, and I'm not sure what options you've considered.
You should also know that your preferences can change over time, and that's okay as well; it doesn't necessarily mean that you were "wrong" about who you were, it may simply mean something is different about either you or your situation.
rikudou@lemmings.world 6 hours ago
What even is this response? That’s like telling a gay person they should try being straight.
aramis87@fedia.io 6 hours ago
As I said, OP seems to be a young person trying to figure how they fit in the world, and they're not giving much information (which is fine). But we're not all born with an innate understanding of all the flavors of sexuality, or all the options out there.
They say they'd like a male partner, which could be situational depending on where they live; it could be a definite preference; or it could be that they're demisexual and haven't realized that's an option. And if they do get a partner, in extremely general terms, there tend to be different benefits depending on which sex you partner with.