Comment on What happens to cult leaders in prison?
Varyk@sh.itjust.works 18 hours ago
Cult personalities aren’t just another criminal any more than they are just another person.
They used their charisma and cunning to influence people, and unless they’re manson-level, many cult leaders do a few years in prison, get out and then do what they were doing before but more quietly.
IronBird@lemmy.world 15 hours ago
whats a good way to flush this people out btw…just ask questions you know the answer to, see if they lie?
Varyk@sh.itjust.works 14 hours ago
Do you mean expose them as a liar?
Questions you know the answer to is certainly a viable method to determine who is a liar.
IronBird@lemmy.world 14 hours ago
people that just habitually manipulate and try to take advantage of others, i guess. moreso than general liers
Varyk@sh.itjust.works 13 hours ago
Yes, questions you know the answer to is a good option, but the way the person answers you can confuse the truth anyway through indirect methods.
Are they making you think your own experiences and memories are invalid, so their story becomes more plausible?
Do they suggest their poor behavior is actually your fault?
Any time you bring up an issue to someone and rather than directly addressing the issue, the person brushes aside the issue to focus on a new topic, especially one that implicates or blames you, that’s a huge red flag signaling manipulation and you should be on guard.
If they keep doing it and you find yourself stuck or trapped in the conversation, admitting guilt you aren’t sure you own or even agreeing with something you know is incorrect, the sooner you leave, physically just walk away from them, and keep walking away, the better.
If you’re getting turned around in a conversation, the longer you let them tell you stories, the more convincing those stories will become and can harm your wellbeing.