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sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day agoExactly, you detailed out exactly what I had in mind.
Though uh… I’d say maybe emphasize the idea of consent, not ‘platonic’.
Some people can seperate sex and love in their approaches to relationships, but lets be real, the vast majority of people cannot.
I would say probably don’t involve people who have uh, genealogical relationships to anyone else in the group, probably try this eith a group of explicitly consenting, open minded adults.
You’d also have to have some kind of ruleset to say like, each other person cannonly send a total of XX seconds of vibration per song, or something like that, maybe more complex rules if you want some ‘gameplay’ in that regard.
The good news though is that simple bullet/egg type wireless vibes can be pretty cheap, maybe $25 or less.
The bad news is that everyone is gonna need to be ok with potentially pissing/shitting themselves, especially if people are also drinking, and they’ve not used such vibrators before too often.
dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 22 hours ago
Yeah, someone’s home is best. Lol.
platonic in the sense of romance. Lol. Like, honestly, fun game with a sexual component like strip poker. You’re not necessarily getting off, or getting entangled with anyone there. I see this is as a game of endurance with a “thrill” aspect.
Also, I may have said dad above. He’s step dad, and that family is definitely close enough they could play that and it not it be weird for them. I doubt the step dad/son would actually be the ones to mess with the others settings, but they’d probably be down to be at the group event. Lol. Hell, even the mom might be. Super open family. Strong boundaries, but those boundaries are places a lot further afield than my family’s. Lol
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 hours ago
You can fuck someone aromantically, you can love someone as a very dear friend with no sexual desire toward them, platonically.
As I understand the world platonic, it essentially means “lacking a sexual and romantic component.”
I… I mean sure, there are some people who can seperate a uh, literal sexual buzz from having desirous or repulsive sexual/romantic feelings about that, but most people do not do that, many think they can, and then nope, turns out they can’t.
As to the step dad situation… uh, nope, nope thats still a hard nope from me, that’s weird.
Maybe other people disagree on that but uh nope nope nope from me.