Comment on Has this ever happened to you?

• MadhuGururajan@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I didn’t say sex doesn’t happen in real life. I said you watch too much porn.

  The mind of a man who thinks that a random girl tagging along with a potential first date will agree to have a threesome let alone the first date themselves will agree to normal sex is… a young naive mind who believes that everyone is having spontaneous group sex.

  Your mind immediately went to that? Why?

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  • maximumbird@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    From my POV

    As someone who had a threesome exactly like this scenario played out.

    You’re the one who is naive.

    Spontaneous group sex happens in real life, all the time. There are many people who do not seek it out. That is valid. There are also people who do seek it out.

    Unfortunately the difference between those two types of people defines the lens through which you define a “naive” person.

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    • MadhuGururajan@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Hey man just because you got a threesome doesn’t mean its common.

      Spontaneous group happens in real life -> I agree.

      All the time -> I don’t agree

      There are people who seek it out

      But that doesn’t mean they get it “all the time”

      Unfortunately the difference between those two types of people defines the lens through which you define a “naive” person.

      And your lens is too much caliberated to view every encounter as an opportunity even if you don’t know whether the OP is actually into it or not, thus projecting your expectations into the scenario.

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      • maximumbird@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        I don’t mind if we disagree, but as someone who deeply loves and is a part of my local lifestyle community, this conversation feels more personal. 

        Because you either get it, Or you just don’t. 

        There are literal hundreds of people in my local lifestyle community. I’ve been to local events that they cap at 300 for attendance quantity. It’s not abnormal at these events to have cuddle puddles of 5+ people together. Strangers. Just met. 

        There are folks that I know very well, That are getting laid by groups of strangers (often 3 or more in a group) every single day, outside of these organized events. This is not an exaggeration. Group sex happens all the time. Period.

        The reason you believe people aren’t always having group sex is because you’ve never had the opportunity to consistently grasp it. Your perspective doesn’t seem to reflect relevant experience, so it’s hard to believe for you. 

        Your point of view is naive to people that actually live the bdsm, swinger, and kink lifestyle(s) 24/7.

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