Purely anecdotal, but the dominance/submission dynamic is something that many women seem to actually want. I have never steered things in that direction since it’s not my thing, but everyone I have been with has asked for some actions like that, being held down, light choking, some pain, etc. Remember how popular 50 shades was? It saddened me, like, “this is what mainstream women actually want”? It’s not what I want.