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sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 hours agoI… have known a single couple, both of whom told me, separately, that they enjoyed, and I should try… ‘donkey punching’ … which is apparently smacking the uh, ‘recipient’, in the back of the head, right as climax is about to occur, because apparently this causes a more intense contraction/climax.
Personally, that sounds completely fucking insane to me, but apparently, different strokes for different folks?
oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 hours ago
That would need at lot of communication and safety to both see if someone or somemany is/are okay with it and to make sure it doesn’t result in severe damage.
Don’t just do it without asking and making sure to practise gently first, and set up other safety precautions, readers of this thread.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 hours ago
Hence why my opinion of being told about that was ‘that sounds completely fucking insane’.
Like… fuck, man.
Yeah, beyond the rather obvious ‘never even consider this without enthusiastic consent’…
You probably should just never do this.
I know people can be and into varying kinds and degrees of pain during the hanky panky… BUT…
It would extremely easy for someone of… really just slightly average strength for an average young male athlete… to punch someone, in the back of the head or upper neck… with enough force that you could cause serious brain damage, break their neck, fuck them up for life, potentially even kill them.
Like if you can’t tell, I’m more into the sensual stuff in the bedroom, maybe a bit of consented restraint…
… but I also have a black belt.
And … this idea terrifies me, any real martial arts competition I have ever even heard of would disqualify you from the match, and probably ban you for life for intentionally punching someone in the back of the head.
Its way too fucking dangerous.
oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 hours ago
Yeah, we have done some rough stuff before, but we wouldn’t do this.
There are just some things, even with RACK that cannot be safe and personally we don’t think they should be done at all.
Such things like choking even aren’t really safe and we definitely don’t really do them in our play and never would for real, we might fake choke where we never squeeze.
But yeah, pretty much, really try to avoid situations where harm could actually be done irreparably, and always have tools, methods, safe words and signs etc on hand.
Doing any kink, or sex without those things is not great. Not getting at you btw, just explaining things to any readers of this thread, safety first in any intimacy, but especially mental and physical intimacy.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 hours ago
100% agree with all of that.
The choking thing is…I’ve known a good number of people who just… dont understand that actually cutting off oxygen supply to someone’s brain is fucking bad, and does not really work like it does in video games and movies.
As you say, you… can grasp someone’s neck in a way where they can still breathe… I’ve known too many idiots who do not know how to do this and also do not know that it is dangerous to have done to yourself.