Comment on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard
jnod4@lemmy.ca 1 month ago"I’m a progressive but I would never date a woman who’s not down to raise me three kids, clean, cook, shop, clean, never drinks, smokes, she hasn’t been ran through. Also she has to satisfy me every time I want, without having the expectations of she receiving it back, a human fuck puppet of sorts, also she has to keep pretty, sexy, lingerie, she has to keep fit, no tattoos. And also I want her to sign a prenup, she wasn’t there when I earned everything I have, she don’t get to keep half of nothing after we divorce. Also she has to be content with me fucking somebody younger on the side when her tits start to sag or gets crows feet. Also she has to fear god but first to fear me, also she can’t be black or brown, also… also… also… "
Also this is not a joke, this is how I’ve been raised and this is what my entourage of friends all push and strive for. I myself have broken from these traditional values inflicted by society and parents, but I will never forget how men sit down at the table and women are there only to serve.
They can fuck whoever they want, but don’t be homophobic about it
RumorsOfLove@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
I also notice the thing about men sitting and women serving. It bothers me a lot, even though it could be an innocent division of roles in a different context. It clearly serves to re-enforce women as subservient. Our society has wronged women: we can do better in this generation.
Gender differs in all sorts of societies throughout the globe and across time. There are a lot of objectively healthy ways to not conform to gender standards…
But society is not objective. I pay little costs like an occasional rude comment. Career costs from judgy people, and those who would prefer to work with judgy people. And life-threatening costs. If I go to the wrong neighborhood at the wrong time wearing the wrong clothes I could be attacked. These are my risks to take. How can I blame another person for staying away? (Personally I like a little more courage in my romances with women.)
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I have spent years fighting my own internalized homophobia in order. I am much happier and healthier when I make safe spaces for my authentic self to relax and enjoy. Its not easy. Its an ongoing process. Its something I struggle with every day and every night. How dare the moderator (who temp-banned me) casually accuse me of homophobia! It cheapens my fucking struggle, dude.
Though I commend the noble urge to protect the reader from homophobic sentiment. The proposition ‘Being gay is weak.’ is already on the table. Everybody is asking themselves if it is true and whether if it applies to them. It demands to be considered.
I’m pushing back on the stereotype that homophobes are young-earther types (who take the bible literally). My parents used to be atheists, but now they are capital T Twits. Them and their thought-leader Elon Musk are Social Darwinists. There are some bad assumptions that traditional gender norms are closely tied to the realities of healthy sex and survival, and evolution. Such as the vomituous ideology of Jordan Peterson. It needs to be debunked. Not censored.