Something similar happened to me just last month with the person I called my “best friend”.

He had been having personal issues for the past year that he can’t figure out on his own, but he’s generally someone who can’t honestly take responsibility for himself and regards his opinion as the word of god, basically.

He has been putting me down often in the past, even though he said he “always looked up for me for the peace I found”. I never really cared much for those words of his because I knew they came from a place of deep hurt.

However, he has not apologized once and at some point I started asking myself why I was calling this person my (best) friend. Well, after his last lashing out I just gave up and cut contact. I was trying a lot to help and understand him, but how do you help someone who went to 4 different therapists and called them all incompetent?

You don’t. They have to figure out that they don’t live in reality themselves, and I was not going to tolerate his disrespect anymore - I have enough other friends who treat me well, and my life honestly has not changed at all. He is not an interesting person anyway, all he can talk about are games, his pain and his delusions.

So what I’m trying to say is - cut your losses. This person, for whatever reason, does not want to gove you the respect you deserve, and that is alright. There are a lot of others who will, and those are the people you should put your energy into.