How did you decide what to do with your life? What free wisdom can you share?

Try things. Experience everything open to you. Seek out even more experiences. You will find lots and LOTS of things that you don’t like, but the more you do, you’ll start picking up pieces of concepts you like. Those will guide you to making the next set of choices. Rinse repeat until you have a partially formed direction, then follow that direction and see where it leads you. I am shocked how many little “dead end” skills or experiences allowed me to take a next step into something moving me forward. There’s no way in hell anyone could have given me a list and said “these are the experiences that will pay off”.

Also there are some hard truths to life and you identify skills/talents/affinities you have when talking about your career:

• You can be good/talented at ThingX
• You can like doing ThingX
• There is a market for ThingX and people will pay you good money to do it.

For a very few number of people, they get all three. Most people have to settle for two and muddle through. You cannot move forward with a specific ThingX if you only have one.

Also, trying to be the best at something professionally will be nearly impossible. Even if you get there for a moment, the world is just too big, and there will always be someone better than you at a specific thing professionally soon. Trying to scrap to stay at the peak is an unsustainable road to ruin. However, being just pretty good at two different things that intersect is VERY achievable, and you will be competing against a tiny handful of people that have those same two skills. Thats the sweet spot. Your skills and ebb and flow between your two specialties over your career and you can ride the wave professionally when one starts waning, you can lean into the other one. At times, both of your skills will be in demand, and you will be extremely valuable and employable. Cash in when that happens and take the work with the full knowledge that it doesn’t last. Save during the good years and your lean years will be an easy ride.