Comment on How to deal with annoying co-worker

DogMuffins@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

• AyuTsukasa@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  So the issue is it’s like a loop you be nice and ignore him he thinks he’s cool.

  You be mean and tell him he’s annoying he paints you as the asshole.

  You be nice and tell him he’s annoying he throws a pity party and makes you feel guilty for saying anything.

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  • DogMuffins@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Sorry mate. IMO this is really bread and butter for a team leader.

    You’re not children. You don’t need to be “nice” or “mean”.

    • hey guy
    • I’m really enjoying working with you. You seem to be amazing at x. I’m really hoping I can learn about y from you.
    • If I’m really honest though, I just can’t concentrate with the fart noises. I know it’s just a joke and maybe others are ok with it but it really disrupts my flow, every time.
    • Anyhow, how have you been going with z.

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    • AyuTsukasa@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Fair point I am probably overthinking it.

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      • foggy@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        You’d be surprised how good ChatGPT is at providing an answer just like the one homie just gave ya.

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    • Usul_00_@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      There is an effective formula for feedback I like.

      1. When you x it has y effect
      2. Pause for them to reply, ask questions, or even better - suggest an alternative
      3. It would be better if z

      In this case, when you make repeat the same joke it loses all humor value and becomes an annoyance.

      It would be better if jokes were limited in use, and certainly not repeated.

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  • NeoNachtwaechter@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    he throws a pity party and makes you feel guilty for saying anything.

    Have you tried not feeling guilty? :-)

    It is still the same: It is his bad behaviour. Regardless how many times he switches from one kind of clown to another kind of clown.

    Yes it is hard, you need to stay calm and act like a grown up at all times. Otherwise he ‘has got you’.

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    • bitcrafter@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Sure, but what’s the end game supposed to be, then? Just making the same request over and over again indefinitely?

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      • NeoNachtwaechter@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        One of them is going to learn something some day (and then a change can happen). Do you ask who? I think it depends on what is worse: giving that talk or having to listen to that talk.

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