Comment on Anon is rude at work
fodor@lemmy.zip 5 weeks agoA lot of that is going to be job specific. If you isolate yourself, you could run into various problems. First, you probably won’t be communicating with union members, and those members might be the kind of people who can help you if the bosses try to fuck you over. Second, sometimes work is stressful, and you might want support from people who technically have no duty to help you. If you treat them decently on a somewhat regular basis, they might make time for you even if they don’t need to. This also connects with your friends. It depends on your relationships of course, but some friends don’t want to hear about work complaints. If that’s the bulk of your friends, then you might want coworkers who are willing to listen to work complaints.
And it’s all nice and fine to say that you only attend work to earn a living, but the reality is you could have worked at a dozen places, and you chose a specific one. No one’s forcing you to be there. You could have gotten a job at 7-Eleven or Walmart, but you didn’t. You’re there of your own volition.
I don’t think anyone takes for granted halfway decent co-workers. We’ve all worked with total jerks, and people often have natural reasons to act like total jerks from time to time. If you’re one of them, that’s okay, you do you.
t_berium@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
I’ve been ripped off enough by companies to only do exactly what I’m paid to do. That doesn’t mean that I’m not willing to help colleagues who have questions while I’m just about to disappear into the evening. It also doesn’t mean that I can’t talk to my colleagues about work-related issues, such as annoyances or anything else. As I said, I’m polite, friendly and helpful as long as it’s work-related. And I don’t do it because I hope to gain some kind of advantage from it, but because I want to be treated that way myself. The fact that nobody is forcing me to work at a specific job is true, but it misses the general point of the thread (and indeed of what I said). The fact is that people are people and therefore pretty much the same or at least similar everywhere - that’s the case in my line of work. And I have experienced countless times that colleagues are only too happy to share all the details of the past weekend with you, from family outings to binge drinking to adultery, but they don’t give a shit whether you had a good weekend yourself and dont even ask back. Most of them are not able to communicate at eye level at the absolute minimum and just constantly present themselves and expect some kind of recognition or admiration in return. And I’m supposed to share private things with people like that? For what? So that they can work with me more professionally? Or maybe just to make them feel better about themselves? I don’t care about that crap, let’s stick to what we came to work for. That’s called professionalism. Apart from that, it’s a mystery to me why you only consider colleagues to be halfway decent if they want to share private things with you. Maybe you should reconsider your expectations.