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TheRealKuni@lemmy.world 4 weeks agoBut really breasts and the nipples on them aren’t inherently sexual and it’s tiring men think/act as if they are.
Inherently, no, but they are secondary sexual characteristics that our species has selected for long enough that the lizard brain instincts find them sexually appealing.
The problem isn’t that men think they’re sexual or find them a turn on. The problem is men not knowing how to control themselves.
oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 weeks ago
Right because they don’t get taught that’s a thing they have to or should do. Because so much of the media and societal values/views teaches them that we’re objects for their consumption, nothing more.
Modern_medicine_isnt@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
That’s a tough one. The drive to mate is very strong. It was critical to the sucsess of the species. Controlling thoughts in that direction is near impossible. So how do you balance that in environments where focus is important. I honestly don’t have any idea for that.
If you are only talking about controllin actions, then I am on board with you. Though men are taught to do that to some extent. They generally don’t just grab women by the hair and drag them to thier man cave to rape them. Well generally. It’s just they aren’t taught that the line should be way back around the point ofvnot expressing any of thier thoughts without consent. Which you correctly point out is tough when media constantly shows them that the agressive male gets laid.
oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 weeks ago
We very much disagree with what you’re saying here in a multitude of ways.
Modern_medicine_isnt@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I understand. It is very difficult for the majority of people to understand how other peoples brains work when it is different than theirs. For example, people without mental disabilities usually don’t understand why people with them can’t just use willpower to overcome the disability.