You two are doing amazing. And take it from a life long procrastinator - it never really changes you just gotta try to let go of the shame. Some people need time for thoughts to digest before they can spew them out at the last moment.

One of my favourite sayings is ‘if something is worth doing it’s worth doing poorly’. Running a dishwasher that’s half new and half stuff you haven’t unloaded, it’s fine. Better to get something out and assessed even if it’s not perfect. It’s a hell of a lot better then it would be if it were not done. Nothing will ever match the idea in your head, but it probably doesn’t need to. Big hugs