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Hackerman_uwu@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

Oh good I’m about to become very unpopular again. Maybe this time someone will help me change my POV if I am wrong instead of just getting angry and resorting k name calling.

Here goes: feminism left young men behind and as much as one might want to say “don’t blame women” the feminist movement has given power to women over the years and that power comes with responsibilities. One of those responsibilities is to collaboratively carve out a space for men as we strive for an egalitarian society.

You know that if you say what what I just said you’re blaming women again, while if you ask how men can take part in feminism you’re making women’s struggles all about men, again.

Can’t win.

How can we have an equitable society if one side is never to blame for anything and the other is ‘whining or attention’ when they ask to be included int he changes.

The simple fact is that feminism has been an incredible source for good but it has focused solely on women. That has been a mistake. I’m middle aged and I know so many men who my age and even some younger who thrash about daily trying to make sense of society with no role models and no standards to aspire to. No wonder some become angry. Imagine being the youngest in generations of men who have been raised according to macho ideals. Be the breadwinner, protect women and children. Hunt. Gather. Kill or be killed… and now act with kindness and empathy to a changing world. I’m not defending it apologising for incels but it is time for young boys and young men to be considered and included in feminism.

There. I said it.

BTW: this is one of the ideas being addressed on the brilliant Barbie movie. “Maybe every night didn’t have to be a girls night.”

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