The core concept of the problem is not related to gender, it’s just that in societies highly differentiated by gender people have different means.

Talk to male friend

He randomly says if he wanted me he could have me

I tell him no he couldn’t

He gets really and says he could easily have me if he wanted to, practically has a fit of rage

Changed pronouns exemplifies that that the core concept of this is that “having someone” is supposedly less about consent and more about compliance to standardised appearance (aka so-called “objective” beauty). I have you have a lot of means (e.g. male or wealth privilege), this gets creepy real fast.