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Geetnerd@lemmy.world 3 days agoI’m an old man.
So, believe me when I say you just need to put yourself out there, in social spaces, and meet girls/boys face to face, and just be yourself. Don’t put on a false face, a “front.” Just be you.
It helps to go to places, or events, that coincide with your personality type.
Don’t give up, don’t take every rejection as a death sentence.
You can do this.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
My experience after graduating from high school in 07 and college in 11 is that uh… no, the vast majority of odd jobs, part time jobs I worked till getting a ‘real’ job…
No, no, the vast majority of basically low wage workers are still mentally in high school, still acting just as immature, still being childish, rude and bullying people, still constantly seeking to create situations of petty drama, still pressuring people into hazing rituals.
Does not matter how old they are.
I’ve seen 45 year old men literally ‘flex’ on younger coworkers to assert dominance, like literally puff themselves up and flex to appear larger, while arguing with or belittling them.
Your advice is generally good advicr, but it is far from guaranteed to ensure you will not be surrounded by immature buffoons, and ostracized when you do not partake in their foolishness.
Geetnerd@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Ah, I was drinking last night, and didn’t read the post well enough.
True, I’ve been in that work situation, where I didn’t fit in, and it was Hell. I got railroaded out of a job at a rural Southern hospital for making friends with a black coworker. I’m a white male. I was “warned” about my new friend by multiple older white coworkers, some department heads. When that didn’t work, I was consistently set up to fail by my boss. I thought about taking it to HR, and threatening to contact the ACLU and the NAACP, but I didn’t want crosses burning in my yard, so I quit.
And yeah, some people never make it out of High School. They’ll always be teenagers, emotionally.
I hope you find a job and a group you click with, sincerely. Best of luck.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
Oh I did find such jobs, but then I managed to get asssulted in a mugging, lost my ids and cards and phone, ended up hospitalized, lost my job, got evicted, ended up homeless for about two years.
On the bright side of that, managed to get SSDI payments and recently set myself up with actual doctors after having to wait for the medicare application window thing, as well as… at least a 6 month lease at a roach motel.
Now I get to do PT for … 6 months to a year? And maybe I can walk without a cane again, and use my wrist for more than 20 minutes at a time without it excruciatingly seizing up.
Geetnerd@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Damn, sorry to hear that. Hope you feel better. Banana pudding helps.